The Benefits of Saying “No” By Shon Hyneman

Shon Hyneman is an Author, Speaker, Mentor, Certified Marriage Coach, and hosts The Doctor of Love Show Podcast.
The benefits of saying no can help change your life for the better. We often look at saying no as a bad thing, but I beg to differ.

Definition:  Used to express refusal, denial, disbelief, emphasis, or disagreement.

No you can’t come over my house this late.

No, I will not over eat.

No, I will not visit that website.

No, I will not lie on my taxes.

No, I will not be controlled by my emotions.

No, I will not overspend.

Any of these statements sound familiar?  The word “no” is not always a bad word especially when it comes to self-discipline.  I had to tell myself no on a couple different occasions when my flesh wanted to rise up and do something ungodly.  Being a Christian doesn’t exempt you from sin and temptation, but God will give you a way of escape (1 Cor. 10:13) in certain situations and it’s up to you to make that decision.

Yes or no is the question when decisions have to be made weather right or wrong.  The most popular answer is “yes” because it gives us “freedom” or accessibility to whatever we want.  But over time, in my short thirty five years of life, I’ve come to realize that the word “no” is essential to living a successful Christian life.  Think about some of the situations you had to say no to (look at the statements above) aren’t you glad you didn’t give into the flesh?

Maturity in my Christian walk came when I stopped trying to “twist God’s arm” about certain things I wanted even though God knew it wouldn’t benefit me in certain seasons of my life.  Sometimes doors would keep closing and I would try to question God, time and time again about why things didn’t go my way.  Over time, now, I can look back and say “thank you Lord for not saying yes to me prematurely.”

Sometimes we wonder why we can’t get the house or car we wanted.  Only to find out six months down the road that our jobs would be downsizing and we would be let go.  God said “no” to the new house or car because He saw the layoff coming before we did.

Looking back over your life aren’t you glad God said no about certain situations in your life?  God knows the beginning to the end so He knows what’s good for you or what won’t work for you.  There are decisions we can make based on what the Word of God says, then there are times when God divinely intervenes to protect us when He says “no” for our own good.

Think about when parents tell their child “no” because the child was about to stick a fork in the socket of a wall.  The parent doesn’t tell the child no because they are being a bad parent, but to protect their child from being electrocuted.  The child wanted to experiment, but the parents were more concerned about the child’s safety.

Sisters, maybe you were into a guy who kept giving you mixed signals and you thought he was the one.  Only to find out he was doing some down low stuff you wouldn’t approve of.  That was God telling you “no” he’s not the right one.  Brothers, looking back over your life maybe you wanted to have sex with a woman and she kept rejecting you only to find out she had something she couldn’t get rid of.  That was God’s grace protecting you with a “no.”  You couldn’t sleep with her because you could have caught something life threatening.

Aren’t you glad God said “no” to certain situations in your life?

Shon Hyneman was born and raised in Cleveland, Ohio for 25 years and in 2004 moved to Phoenix, Arizona with his family.  For twelve years, he is happily married to Londina and they have two children Shon is the founder of Never Again Ministries which prepare singles for marriage. He’s an Author, Speaker, Mentor, Certified Marriage Coach, and hosts The Doctor of Love Show Podcast.  Shon is a fan of NFL football and UFC fights.

Copyright © 2015 Shon Hyneman – All Rights Reserved.

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